First Enema - Part 2
Here are some suggestions to improve your chances of finding a partner and/or enjoying this experience:
First, if you're seeking a partner, be a real person. I know this ought to go without saying, but many of the friends I've made on the 'net have commented that I'm "nicer" than a lot of the people they have met. If all you have in mind is your own pleasure, and what you want to do to someone else or receive from someone else, the people you meet will discover that soon enough--and they will lose interest in you. If, on the other hand, your own interest in enemas is tempered with an interest in the enjoyment of your partner, you will find that people whom you thought would NOT be interested will be. People love consideration. I've downloaded most of Elf's (THANKS, Elf!!) pictures in the last few weeks, and I enjoy them immensely; and one thing you definitely can see in his photos is his consideration of the girl to whom he is giving the enema. She is being treated like a real human being, not a piece of meat. That's probably why she was willing to try this with him in the first place. Enemas can take some getting used to if you've never given or received before, and many potentially wonderful experiences are ruined because the giver forgets that anal tissues are tender, and filling the colon the first time can bring a lot of apprehension and discomfort. Be considerate.
You should also have an understanding of the other person's total sexuality. Enemas are one part of a much larger picture. If your partner is a woman, what really turns her on (assuming your interest is more than cleansing)? How can you bring her pleasure? If she wants to give (and you're a guy), is she turned on by the dominance and control she feels? Are you willing to relinquish that part of yourself? What does she want to do AFTER the enema? Have sex? Be caressed? Spank you? If you're a guy, and you wish to introduce this to your girlfriend, think of *her* first. How does she react to anal stimulation? Is she opposed to any "backdoor" play? If so, an attempt to introduce her to enemas is probably bound to fail. An enema is quite embarrassing, unless you're used to it. You expose a very private part of your anatomy and passively receive what your partner wishes to give. It can also be scary. What if he won't stop when I'm full? What if I leak all over? What about the cramping? All sorts of questions crowd into the mind, and make it hard to say "Yes" to your lover when he comes and proposes an enema as part of your sex life. There are also some people who really DO NOT like anal stimulation. Those people are not good candidates for enemas. So broach the subject in the general context of anal stimulation and pleasure, if that turns her on. If the control and domination aspects of your sex life are something she wishes to explore, an enema is a tremendous way to show that you are "in control" of your lover. She has to submit--to bare her bottom and LET you do this to her, which means you have control. By the way, after you get started, and you've given her a few enemas (if control is your "bag"), it's a great idea for her to come home and find the bag lying on the bed with written instructions as to the temperature, amount and type of solution, so that she can fill the bag and get everything ready for you to give to her--and a set of orders regarding how she's to position herself for your arrival.
If you are looking for a partner:
I have found a number of female friends on the 'net; most of them are scattered all over the country, so if you find somebody close to you, you're lucky. You might try looking for a "submissive" girl (if you're dominant) or a dominant (if you're submissive). Many submissives will receive enemas, and also give them, if it's approached in the context of their overall D&S and B&D lifestyle. Same thing for dominants. If you're a woman, and looking for a man, look for someone who's interested in more than your bottom end. Obviously, this particular "kink" drew you together, but you should always feel a certain level of trust and confidence in the person who gives to you. There are quite a few nice men ready to fulfill (or is that fill full?) your needs. Most of the time you will find them advertising, lurking, or posting to groups like a. s. e. Get to know the person if you can first, and make clear what your expectations are (no sex? Tell him.)
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