First Enema ~ Part 3

Most people I've talked to tell me that enemas take a certain amount of "getting used to" before they actually provide the turn-on that I've described. So be patient. Most folks also tell me that their first enema was not all that pleasant. Here are some pointers to help you enjoy receiving from the very first moment.

1. A comfortable, not too-threatening position. The "Ass in the air" position is probably not the best for a first enema. I suggest that you lie on your side, bottom leg slightly bent, top leg drawn to your chest. This exposes the anal area and (in women) the genitals, yet it doesn't seem quite so "out there" as with your bottom in the air and your face on the pillow. An alternative position (and one favored by a friend of mine) is over-the-lap. It's a bit more difficult to relax that way, but your partner can massage your back as the enema progresses, you can position yourself between his knees so your belly is not compressed, and it gives your partner good access to your anus without exposing you quite as thoroughly as some other positions. In addition, many klismos began their interest in enemas over Mom's (or Dad's) lap, so some of the "mystique" is re-created.

2. A well-lubricated anus. I believe that an oil-based lubricant ought to be used for enemas, unless the nozzle or tube that you use is rubber (oils destroy rubber); K-Y and other water-based lubes tend to make the anus sore after you expel. I also suggest "pre-lubricating" the anus and rectum with generous amounts of lubricant (vaseline, cold cream). Have your lover or partner use his finger and massage the anal area a bit with the lubricant and work some of it up inside. Then when he inserts the nozzle in you, your anus will relax and admit it much easier.

3. As your partner begins to insert the nozzle, try to relax. A couple deep breaths as the nozzle moves past the anal sphincter and into the rectum often helps. If you're using a enema nozzle, or other larger nozzle, your partner should perform the insertion in several stages--first the "easy part," then let you rest for a few seconds, then slowly inserting the "bag" part of the balloon nozzle, then let you rest again before inflating the bag inside of you.

4. When the water is turned on, mentally open yourself to receive it. Imagine your colon and rectum relaxed and accepting, ready to be filled. I don't know why, but the main problem with enemas seems to be panic. It may be the size of the bag, or the idea that "this is going to hurt real good," or some such thing; but if you will just relax and receive the water as it flows into you, the enema will not cause nearly as much cramping, and will probably feel OK from the very first moment. As the cramps come (and they will, especially if you've never had an enema), massage your abdomen and do the deep breathing I recommended for the insertion process. Don't panic. The adult colon can receive up to 4 quarts of water, and I've given full 2-quart enemas to women who were just barely 5 ft. tall and quite slim. I know that these women could have taken more than I gave them without major discomfort. So don't panic. If you feel you have to go immediately, ask your partner to stop the flow for a few moments so that your colon can relax.

5. As the enema is finished, maintain a relaxed position and attempt to hold it for a few minutes, if you can. Try to relax yourself by letting your belly bulge out and continue to take some deep breaths from time to time.

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